With the recent rash of baby showers, wedding showers, 1st year old birthday parties and Weddings Mark and I have recently been to we got into a discussion the other day about thank you cards. As far back as I can remember I wasn’t allow to play with one thing from my birthday party until I sat down and hand wrote out every thank you card. My mother would proof read them and make sure I didn’t just write “Thanks for the pink caboodle bye!” Mark doesn’t think it is a big deal (well initially but we will circle back to this). His thoughts are well you end up throwing them away eventually anyways. My thoughts are…listen I took the time out of my day to shop for that one year old gift, purchase it….wrap it in whatever Dora the Explorer theme party it was. Buy a card and then take up half of my Saturday watching kids play in a bounce house. The least one can do is take 5 seconds out of a day to write a thank you card.
His response to this “your handwriting is so terrible most people can’t even read what you wrote”. This is true. I do have awful medical professional handwriting. I have been called by quite a few pharmacists about clarifications of my prescriptions….I need electronic charting that is for sure! Case in point here is a picture of my blogging journal. It’s so bad sometimes I can’t even read my own writing.
So to investigate this further I went to my source for all things etiquette the one and only Martha Stewart. Here are Martha’s suggestions for Thank You Notes Etiquette. Here are some takeaway or the cliff notes version for you.
“Only one person should do the actual writing, but as coauthors, each of you should sign in your own handwriting”. “How long is too long to wait before writing a thank-you note? Two months after you’ve returned from the wedding trip shouldbe plenty of time to get the job done; three months is themaximum”. “The right paper and pen — blue or black ink — will make yournotes beautiful, but it’s what you write that will make themmeaningful”. Side note for anyone who is new around here and if you have some time you can read this. I am the youngest of six and my mother is pretty much Martha Stewart’s doppelgänger.
She can whip up curtains from some leftover bedskirt material, while altering one of my dresses and getting red wine stain out of a shirt. She literally has a solution for everything. That gets me to thinking about a segment. “Ask Sherill” y’all could write in your questions for her. “Dear Sherill what is the difference between cephalon pans and stainless steel?” (I was just educated about this the other day at Bed Bath & Beyond while registering). She has an answer for everything and usually is delivered in the most rose colored glasses way.
For example when I spilled an entire bottle glass of red wine down my white dress at a sorority date function back in the day… “Oh Amanda this is quite the accident did someone spill this on you??” (cough cough I think I was like 19)…..sure yes…..”On the dance floor you know how rowdy people can be”. “Okay no worries I will mix two parts vinegar to three parts bleach….tumble wash it on the delicate cycle in my front loader washer and it will be better than new”. I doubt that’s the right formula but it sounds like something she would say.
Phew sorry that was a tangent as always. I love my mom I could literally go on for hours with her pearls of life wisdom. I’m serious you have a random question send it my way we will ask the expert.
Getting back to the subject. I love finding pretty thank you cards and taking the time to personally thank people for their thoughtfulness and generosity.
Here are my thoughts on the subject….. #1 Make sure you proofread your notes. I usually have my phone or computer next to me. I misspelled one thing and have never lived it down to this day. Remember that SATC episode?
#2 Make sure your handwriting is legible. I tend to not have the best handwriting (please see above) and that is due to rushing. Taking the time to sit down with a good pen and writing surface usually helps the situation.
#3 Try to really acknowledge someone’s thoughtfulness. If someone has travelled to see you, taken the time to come to your special day or has given you something thoughtful please take the time to let them know how much that means to you.
#4 Try to make it personal Telling the person how you are planning to use their thoughtful gift or how wonderful it was how they found that perfect gift for you is always a great way to end a card. Nothing is worse when you get a generic thank you and you don’t even feel like the person even wrote down what you gave them
#5 Just be you. You don’t need to make a production out of this. Just take the time to thank someone is all there really is to it!
I wrote one Mark’s friends on his softball team a thank you note for a really nice bottle of wine he dropped off for my birthday. Mark said it made him super uncomfortable to give it to him because “guys don’t give guys thank you cards”.
What are your thoughts on thank you cards? Am I being old fashioned about this topic? Or do you think thank you cards are a nice gesture? Let me know! Don’t forget about the giveaway click here. Feel free to follow me down below. xoxoxoxoxo