My life has been pretty crazy lately. I’ve had the two biggest life changes that have pretty much ever happened to me and I have been waiting to share all the news with you. You all know by now that we are homeowners. Well, no lie, two weeks after we closed on the house I found out I was pregnant!!! Pretty much all I’ve been doing since I found out is giving praise to God because clearly there is a plan and I just needed to be patient. All the things I’ve been stressing about and planning for since we got married, happened to me in a two-week span. Our house came together so quickly. The market where we live is so competitive and we were runner-up to no lie four houses including a teardown, a foreclosure where the previous owners had gutted every appliance before they left and a few other heart breakers. This house we are currently in was a total dream home. It fit everything on my checklist. The school system, a backyard, close to the water, a bedroom/full bathroom on the first floor, and a garage (a three car for that matter unheard of in the city!) Plus plenty of room to accommodate our at home businesses, family/friends staying with us, and now an expanding family. Mark and I had looked at it on a Wednesday and an offer was placed on that Friday. It was definitely a slow process of moving in and I look back now thinking about crawling around on the wood floors painting baseboards and I’m so happy that part is behind us.
Two weeks after we closed I was going through the monthly possible hype of maybe this is the month but didn’t think too much about it because the previous month we had been crazy with the house and it wasn’t the first priority on my list. You all know me, I’m a bit OCD/Type A…..tracking my temps and all. I woke up with cramps but nothing else and I thought it was odd. I rolled my eyes at myself because I still wanted to check and used one of the cheapie pregnancy tests and hoped in the shower. When I came out I saw the faintest line that looked like an evaporation line. I shook my head and pretty much talked aloud like a crazy person and said, “there is no way possible“. For as many of those tests I have taken throughout this entire time we have been trying, I have NEVER seen anything but one line on a stark slate of white. (Btw these are the cheapie ones I used that showed something on day 28 of my cycle. They are so worth it). I drove to work and called my sister to ask her if there was such a thing as an evaporation line. She responded with “you know you work at a hospital, just go and get a blood test“. Well, that is what I did and ordered it stat. I sat there constantly refreshing my screen to see the results. When I saw it come back with a positive result and my HCG already up above 100, I immediately teared up. We had been “not preventing” ever since we got married well over two years ago and nothing was happening. I am the youngest of six kids, my siblings all have multiple kids and with ZERO difficulties getting pregnant. I would be lying to you if I said I wasn’t getting nervous about what was going on with us.
When you are going through it, everyone tells you to relax. Don’t think about it. Go on vacation, drink a ton and just let things happen. Then you hear every story about someone’s cousins, sister in laws best friend who was trying for two years and then they started looking at adopting…..then they got pregnant. Or someone had been trying for years and they went to Cancun, was drunk the whole time and hooray now they are pregnant. I know people are trying to give you hope and encouragement but everyone has a different path in life and story to their life. I am completely Type A. I was temping my cycles, using the Ovia app (which is the best btw) and trying to give us the best opportunity every month. I took Mucinex, I tracked my symptoms etc and nothing was happening. I’m sure I was stressing myself out and everyone around me (including Mark) but being a planner is all I know.
I think there was a plan for Mark and I. We needed to be settled with the next stage of our lives which was getting out house and finally having a space that we built together. I can’t think of anything more stressful than being pregnant and trying to find a home in this crazy market that we live in. I’ve had a lot of girlfriends reach out to me lately about trying to conceive. Here are a few things I will say. Stay off all of the TTC boards. Every single month I convinced myself I was pregnant. Ohhh I’ve had vivid dreams, I’m sneezing more, I have a runny nose, my boobs feel bigger, I have slight cold symptoms that must be because my immune system is suppressed from being pregnant. You can find anything you want to convince yourself of it. The actual month where I was pregnant, the only symptoms I had were cramps. Cramps like I was getting my period. I had ZERO other symptoms. I thought I was getting my period and nothing came. That was it. No stuffy nose, no sneezing, nothing else. Those forums are such crap and will DRIVE YOUR NUTS. The only thing I can say is just to have faith there is a plan and time for you. The more you stress about it, the more you are going to drive yourself and everyone else around you crazy.
The other thing I will say is if you are trying, get your Vitamin D levels checked. Mine were critically low. Like Ricketts low I swear. I never go out in the sun, sunscreen myself up like crazy….aka I get no Vitamin D from the suns natural rays. I read a lot of studies (of course I did) about increasing fertility odds when women had normal Vitamin D levels so I made sure to start taking one. I actually took two of these daily and my Vitamin D levels came up to high normal in 6 months.
So my due date is December 19th, 2017. I am 17 weeks now. You may kill me but I really have had minimal symptoms. No morning sickness, no nausea, and no issues with smells. The only thing I have noticed different is I’M SO TIRED. The first trimester I pretty much felt like I had Mono every single day. I can’t even express to you the extreme fatigue. Like your body is so heavy, you can’t move it, and all you want to do is sleep 24 hours a day. I would come home from work, sleep for 2-3 hours and still go to bed at 9 pm. I’m feeling better now in my second trimester but still, I am zapped for energy. This has been difficult for me since I am a teach barre after work, write blog posts, and grade papers up till I fall asleep. I’ve had to give myself a lot of grace to allow myself to get the sleep that I need and know that it will all get done…..eventually. I’m drinking a ton of water and have switched over to one half caff a day. These Nespresso pods have been a life changer. They have 60mg of caffeine in them, they have actually liberalized caffeine intake during pregnancy to up to 200mg a day. I feel comfortable with my one half caff.
I cannot believe nobody called me out in this picture. I mean hello what I’m newly working with up top. Dress from Amanda Uprichard find here
I have been secretly saving bloggers pregnancy must haves (thank you, Ashley, I am ordering these shorts soon). I am still in regular clothes but have a feeling a few maternity pieces may need to be added. I have to remind myself constantly that I’m growing a little human. Since I work in cardiology I’m around fabulous sonographers that I once in a while check in to make sure there really is someone in there. We are finding out what we are having but I already have a feeling of what it is going to be. Stay tuned I will be sharing that soon. Thank you for sticking around for this majorly lengthy post but I feel like I owed you guys a life update. I waited a lot longer than most I feel like to share the news but I wanted to make sure everything was okay before I dropped this major news. I can’t wait to share my pregnancy style hacks and to share this journey with you! Thank you for all the love and support as always. xoxoxo